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Post by Guest on Jul 30, 2006 11:47:13 GMT -5
My twenty-three year old son is seeing a fifty-five year old woman. What should I do? She's older than I am!!!  |
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Post by Alex on Jul 30, 2006 15:08:45 GMT -5
Well don't count on grandchildren!
AHHH A 2 sided coin here. First thing that comes to mind is what is your son thinking? The second thing You go girl!!.
My advice keep your nose out of it.
They are both adults. Time will tell if it's a long term thing or a short fling. Who knows the old bag might get tired of your son.
Anyone else have any input on this situation?
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Post by Guest on Jul 30, 2006 22:13:41 GMT -5
I am sure there is merit in what you say, but since my husband left us when my son, Josh, was very young, he really hasn't had a male role model for most of his growing up years. I fear he's way over his head. Should I seek psychological assistance for him?
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Post by Dabbit on Jul 31, 2006 4:57:59 GMT -5
Speaking from experience leave them to their own devices, the more you push them the further away they will get - and your son may even get to dislike you. In my case the 'romance' was short lived and things have actually worked out in a way I am happy with.
I know it is destressing, but ask yourself why exactly are you set against it? Is it because of what people might say? is it because your worried about what might happen in old'er' age? Are you worried you won't have grand children? When I sat and thought my main and first thought was it's paeodphilia - after all if they were all say ten years younger it would certainly be that, but as the wise cat himself says they are both adults, and as much as we disliek it life goes on and things happen we don't like...
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Post by Alex on Jul 31, 2006 9:03:22 GMT -5
If Josh was looking for a male role model I don't think he would go after an older woman. I think you, Anonymous, like Dabbit says, are the one who needs help with the situation. Josh may like her for who she is not how old she is. Some of the youngest people I have met have been in the later years. Step back and let Josh live his life.If you did the job you should have he will be able to handle it when she dumps him. Male role model ....If a child wants a male role model they will find one somewhere.
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Post by sandy on Jul 31, 2006 16:22:58 GMT -5
Being an older woman who is no longer married I would consider a younger man. I don't know if I would consider a 23 year old but hey if you like each other and both are unattached why not spend time together. I have been asked out by guys much younger than me. I haven't gone cause they didn't interest me but if one comes along that does, I'll go. What will my kids say? Probably "You go ,Mom!!!!" What will the rest of the world say? Well, frankly Scarlet I don't give a .............. I have never lived my life by caring what others thought. It was what I thought that counted. So Mom go get a life and leave your son alone.
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Post by Dabbit on Aug 1, 2006 9:25:43 GMT -5
I wish I had your attitude Sandy, i tend to wrry what people think and say - probably because of the bullying and lack of friends and confidence. I am one of those who doesn't approve of age gaps but I wouldn't stop others doing their thing, although I was upset when my own daughter starting goign out with a man more twice her age - but it all fizzled out which was a relief, and she now has a much younger man who we've met on several occassions and who is coming on holiday with us.
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Post by Alex on Aug 2, 2006 9:33:12 GMT -5
Sometimes situations like this are for shock value. After the shock wears off so does the romance. Or they could actually like each other. There are stranger things that happen in this world.
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Post by Mark on Aug 2, 2006 14:39:57 GMT -5
There's a good reason for that. It's a strange world.
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